One thing you got wrong, that is was very unlikely the OM would get to stepdad status, that’s looking pretty certain, but out of my control, so meh.
Yeah the statistics I have read don't seem to lineup with what happens on the board.
Agreed. Every LBS' hope at least initially is that the WAS/WS and the AP relationship fails. Doesn't seem to play out like that very often around here. Not so sure about those affair stats out there...
I was that LBS guy
Maybe I'm confused, but my understanding is you were separated for years and legally divorced before your ExW started dating another man. That's quite a bit different situation than an AP. Granted, I understand there are still associated feelings.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
One thing you got wrong, that is was very unlikely the OM would get to stepdad status, that’s looking pretty certain, but out of my control, so meh.
Yeah the statistics I have read don't seem to lineup with what happens on the board.
You get a whole lot of statistics. Do you read the sources and studies?
I don’t think it’s a good idea to believe all the “simple google search” statistics that you read. The internet is filled with a bunch of bogus information. Don’t just believe it because the internet said so
I feel like his message is pretty basic and can be found in fewer words and in a less misogynistic way.
It’s been multiple years already since I read this book - solely so I could comment with first hand knowledge. One thing I remember clearly is he kept writing the same things over and over and over and over again with little variation. So he absolutely could have written it using fewer words just by not repeating himself addnausium.
So I wonder… is the coach married by now or at least in a many year R? Or is that not the point?
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Maybe I'm confused, but my understanding is you were separated for years and legally divorced before your ExW started dating another man. That's quite a bit different situation than an AP. Granted, I understand there are still associated feelings.
Yes, but being divorced does not mean all feelings, emotions etc are just turned off, especially after 32 years knowing her and 18 years of marriage.. Oh well, moving forward, moving forward every day, one step at a time.
I feel like his message is pretty basic and can be found in fewer words and in a less misogynistic way.
It’s been multiple years already since I read this book - solely so I could comment with first hand knowledge. One thing I remember clearly is he kept writing the same things over and over and over and over again with little variation. So he absolutely could have written it using fewer words just by not repeating himself addnausium.
So I wonder… is the coach married by now or at least in a many year R? Or is that not the point?
Don you seem to base everything including OLD on relationships and marriage. Is that why you tend to be negative because you’re not in either? My guess is Coach is a Spiral and is quite HAPPY doing what he’s doing.