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It’s hard to live her through “finding herself” when that seems to involve her wanting to love someone else.

"Finding myself" is so common and almost always really means I'm interested/fallen for another person and don't want to be honest about it.

Check out TellMeSo's new thread: "She just wants to find "herself" and needs to be selfish for once.". That's perhaps the biggest red flag (of several) in his sitch there's an affair going on.

My ExW told me she's was broken and just needed to be alone to work on herself...while she was texting with OM1 like a madwoman at home and hooking up with at work. She was probably actually right her assessment; she just didn't actually mean it.