Divorce immediately after marriage

[Ready2Change]

What exactly are the key points for you to make an assumption she is cheating? It would be interesting to hear your perspective.

Your opening post.

things took a negative turn in recent months.

something has changed. She became colder and colder

she decided to leave our home (living together for 4+ years).

She is stating that she lost her feelings and will not get them back.

That I am the wrong person for her and she does not love my anymore.

She told me that trying to save our marriage will change nothing and she is 100% confident in divorce.


she has been saying that we should divorce and that the marriage was a mistake.

I asked several times to work on our issues and to solve them together, but she is refusing

She is refusing couples therapy

She just wants to find "herself"

She is telling me that her life is great apart our relationship,

her close relatives are stating that she is different

She has booked several impulsive vacation trips which is quite unusual for her

seems to be running away whenever opportunity arises.

Also, made several big purchases in a span of a month. Lost a lot of weight naturally.

The next time she is cold and avoids me.

Others posters in the past have written very similar words. They all claim that there is not another person involved. After a certain amount of time passes, they will post "You all were right" I found out my spouse has been cheating this whole time.



I hope you are the exception, but we try to prepare the posters that the probability is high that there is someone.

This is my canned statement:
As far as your spouse, until you have enough info to prove this wrong, assume there is another person (Hint: This is your first 180). Do not reveal anything about what you know and how you found out. "We both know that is a lie." is a great way to deal with any deception.