Do not get caught up in the glamorization of divorce. Make no mistakes - divorce is not glamorous!
If, and that is if not when, IF divorce becomes necessary then proceed with it like a business deal.
Divorce doesn’t bring peace. Divorce doesn’t bring fulfillment. Divorce doesn’t bring joy, or happiness, or contentment, etc. Divorce cleaves your relationship and your assets. That’s it! Best know and believe what you’re doing before jumping off that cliff.
DnJ - thanks for your thoughts. Here is what I get caught up in:
- Can I ever be happy in this relationship again? - What is the point where I know it's time to cut my losses? (Only I can answer this, yes) - Am I doing my children a disservice letting them think this is a normal relationship? - Would I be doing my children a disservice pulling the plug myself, not knowing if and when W will finish her journey, and our marriage becomes acceptable again? - Is W simply playing out the string and planning a slow and methodical exit? (Honestly, she would probably have to be a sociopath for this to be true. I think if she does wind up filing for divorce on her own, it isn't something she knows to be true and definite today.)
