Your wife has given you a great gift, even if you can't see it right now. You have a great opportunity that most your age do not get this early in life. You have a chance for huge personal growth.
Completely agree w/R2C.
Not sure if you're ready to hear this, but...she's 1) showing you who she is very early on (before you have years of marriage and kids together) , and 2) giving you an incredible opportunity to dig deep and transform yourself and your life.
Take advantage of this incredibly difficult situation to make yourself a much better, attractive, valuable man. IF you do that you'll look back in a year, 2yrs, 5yrs, 10yrs and realize what a defining moment / inflection point of your life this is.
THIS. Apart from the glimpses of sadness and emotions, this is what my analytical and logical side is telling me as well. This is a huge gift to work on myself and experience how to become emotionally stable in rough situations.
Even thought, I had long relationships before, nothing hits emotionally like this. Hopefully, I can come out with visible improvements at the end. Regardless of the outcome, I hope that myself and wife will find true happiness in the end.
Thank you.
Originally Posted by BL42
Originally Posted by TellMeSo
Do you have any tips whether I should propose a date if she reaches out or wait for her to propose spending time together?
DO NOT propose a date. That's pursuit. Give her more distance than she wants. Act as if you're completely happy with life and you're excited by the prospect of freedom. Make her curious why you're not pursuing and wonder if she might regret losing you.
Thank you. I am actually satisfied with my life apart from this situation with our relationship. No need to act. To be honest, I kinda like the freedom a bit as I am able to improve some aspects of my life which always got pushed away due to time restrains.
However, this is one of the mistakes I made early on. I offered her to go on a date with me, but obviously it did not work. Even thought, she never straight rejected my proposal.
