Everyone has to move at the pace they feel good about and not everyone wants to rush to the lightning round.
So a kiss after 3 dates is considered lightning round?
Maybe, maybe not….depends on the individuals involved, which was my overall point. Everyone has their own pace and you can’t gauge your own pace against someone else’s. All these “rules” about kissing by 2nd date, sex after 3rd, are just guidelines but not necessarily hard and fast rules that one has to live by. I don’t care at what speed people choose to move because that is their personal choice, but people need to examine themselves and make those choices for themselves, not based on rules or books or how society says it should be or whatever. I’m a big advocate of do your own thing on your own time. If that is sex on the first, so be it. If it is no kiss til date 6, more power to you.
And to specifically respond, lest someone say I skirted the question, for me personally, I wouldn’t be terribly interested in kissing for several dates. I’m a hugger so I would not necessarily pass up a hug on the first date (and yes I find it sweet if they actually ask first before just grabbing and squeezing). My first kiss with Sparky was date 3, which happened to be my birthday. Everyone is different. I also wouldn’t friend zone someone if I did want a kiss but they didn’t go for it. As a grown a$$ woman, if I want a kiss and he’s not moving, I’ll either give the green light or ask and then if he’s not feeling it, hopefully he’d say that.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
