Your wife has given you a great gift, even if you can't see it right now. You have a great opportunity that most your age do not get this early in life. You have a chance for huge personal growth.
Everyone here is going to give you great advise. The hardest thing for you will be determining which behavior to apply to each particular decision you are making. Everything you need to do will feel counter-intuitive.
For example, you are looking at her and watching her behavior. You really should only be looking at your behavior. That is all you can control. If you change the way you interact with her, it forces a change in the relationship (good or bad).
You are going to have to fight hard your natural instinct to pursue her. She is your wife and you want to support her 100% (with your actions) in her decision. Even if you completely disagree with her decision. Fight every urge in your body that wants to argue or discuss issues with her.
Come here and seek wise advise before making any decisions. Knowledge is power. You can mull over lots of ideas that you may not have initially considered.
During this process, you should question (challenge) all of your beliefs.
Dig through as many of the quote threads as you can.
I wish you well during this. We will do our best to give you the tools you need to navigate this.
R2C
R2C,
Thank you for the kind words!
To be honest, I thought that I would feel depressed by this whole situation, but I am pretty calm already after a month. This is exactly due to the fact that I see this as great opportunity in such a young age to improve myself. First and foremost, for myself to become an excellent and happy person. To be honest, I have been mostly happy for the past several years and even can see glimpses of happiness in this situation. Secondly, either for my wife or someone else who might come in the future.
My colleagues and friends are already starting to notice changes in my behaviour, physical appearance and calmness.
What I understood during the past several weeks, is that there is no point or reason for me to fight her. Even if we are destined to divorce, I'd rather go out peacefully and with good memories than fighting her. Obviously, this is not easy but I see good progress so far. We haven't had any arguing during the past several weeks.
Thank you again, I am willing to listen to the advice! Thank you for dedicating your time.
