Ok LH, I thought I was with you and feeling the wind in my sails that divorce is the only move for me, I'll file next week, and find a new great woman by next Christmas, etc. Then your last line threw me.
Divorce is not the only move for you!
Originally Posted by LH19
Whoa whoa whoa. File for divorce if that’s what you feel is right for you.
Doug, you file only when you know and believe it is right for you. Feelings change. Do not make such decisions based upon emotions.
“The wind in my sails” “I’ll file next week” “Find a new great woman by next Christmas.”
What ?!?
Do not get caught up in the glamorization of divorce. Make no mistakes - divorce is not glamorous!
If, and that is if not when, IF divorce becomes necessary then proceed with it like a business deal.
Divorce doesn’t bring peace. Divorce doesn’t bring fulfillment. Divorce doesn’t bring joy, or happiness, or contentment, etc. Divorce cleaves your relationship and your assets. That’s it! Best know and believe what you’re doing before jumping off that cliff.
Your personal growth, will or will not happen, regardless of your martial status. It depends solely upon you.
I speak plenty about acceptance and forgiveness. It’s a serious and solemn journey for one’s self. That is the path to contentment and peace. And happiness, I find, is a byproduct of contentment.
Your thread title: Stuck in Limbo. You’re only as stuck as you believe you are. It is only as much a limbo as you believe it is.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
