Do you know OM's circumstances? (How old is he? is he married? In town or far away? ...etc.). Although I agree with others you should do your best not to dwell on him (though in my experience that's easier said than done) and to instead focus on yourself, some of those answers might inform your actions.
If I'm correct about who it is, he lives an hour away and doesn't appear to be married but has either one or two young children. I'm not exactly sure how his path organically crossed with W's. It is not someone from her past.
Originally Posted by BL42
Second, you can confirm it 100% if you really want to without floating it for her reaction.
Do tell.
Originally Posted by BL42
Did you?
No, I have no tracker on her car and have never hired a private eye. I don't imagine I ever will as that's expensive and unlikely to yield tangible results in a fault divorce.
Originally Posted by BL42
Don't react emotionally. Process your feelings before making any decisions - and I'm sure you have some.
Everything I've read about divorce or staying together after infidelity requires that the affair (obviously) has to be over, and the cheater has to be remorseful and willing to work on the marriage. I don't think that's in the vicinity at all.
