is this really how you feel or is this anger talking?
I'm starting to feel like I would prefer to cut bait when the time (financially) is right. Read LH's post in this thread about how he now realizes what it's like to be treated right and not feel anxiety whenever his wife's phone vibrates. I wouldn't say that last part applies to me in that exact form, but W's phone is definitely part of the duplicitousness.
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Focus on yourself. What do you want? What are your core values? How do you want to spend the rest of your life?
Trust and companionship would be two important ones if we're talking about relationships. I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone willing to have affairs. Sometimes what gets broken doesn't go back together again.
I understand these statements. This is what I was driving at in my previous post. Once you know what's important to you, the rest falls into place. It becomes less about their actions and more about your wants and needs.
The thing is, it's really important to act from a place that's not driven by anger and hurt. That is a huge ask when you've been lied to, betrayed, cheated on. Believe me, I get that. So what's the best you can do to ensure that if/when you make a decision and take an action you're doing so from a place of strength rather than from anger or hurt?
To me, that last question is the jackpot. You don't want to take an action that you will ultimately regret. Rather, taking an action in a way that honors your core values will lead to I think a better outcome.
Last edited by bttrfly; 01/06/2301:40 AM.
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