It's really nice to hear from you, Newborn. I appreciate you saying that things will get better.
I actually don't blame myself for H's infidelity at all. I own my part in communication issues and prioritizing work over him sometimes, but any issues we had are no excuse for betrayal. H also prioritized work over me on a number of occasions, but I never cheated. H has been somewhat nice and reasonable re: money (so far, hope it stays that way), but wow his last woe-is-me text was really ugly. Not directly blaming me for his unhappiness but implying it nonetheless.
My IC, who is familiar with the D process in Country B, suggested that I try to find out more details about the affair(s), because it could be useful in court, if it ever gets to that point.
I feel a lot of anxiety about this. I want to know, but I don't. Having more information could further my interests in a D. But how do I ask for this. I can't see H volunteering it unprompted, so I'd have to initiate.
