Doug,
I'm going to ask you a few questions. You don't need to answer them here, but at least please think about them.

1. Which one of you is racing towards Divorce court faster? It's been 2.5 years, and she's still there, in your home, with you. So, do you want to try to save this marriage or not?

2. What have you gained from all your sleuthing? Has it made you a better person? A better husband or father? How has it improved your life?

3. What about yourself are you avoiding by putting so much focus on your wife and her actions, and why are you avoiding it?

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver