Originally Posted by Ginger1
I’m glad you brought this over here.

Mach, that’s really heavy on assumption and also on the assumption these women can’t maintain their own lifestyle. I imagine you are matching with middle aged women who have built something in their lives . They have hobbies like boating and enjoying sports! They aren’t kids anymore. They have earned things throughout their lives and often make their their own money to maintain them.

I happen to know a good amount of women who earn pretty well for themselves. They don’t need a man to pay for the things they enjoy. It’s an outdated notion, don’t you think?

Also, To speak to why OLD dating is so hard for MEN as one poster had mentioned. I agree. It is harder for middle aged men these days. Mainly because men used to be able to bring some charm and a salary to the table . Women no longer NEED men. They have to bring more to the table than being the guy who works over 50 hours a week and provides. Because women are doing it too. And killing it. Typically in midlife, it’s more of a want than a need . Women and men both are established. It’s harder than it used to be sure, but majority, the standards are not unreasonable
Ginger, It is allot of assumption. I am 55 years old, and its a gut feeling, thats all. A few on the place I was on stated, they are financially and mentally secure, but not many at all. Some, remember this is window shopping, looked like they were in very nice homes ( some were as stated where they lived) but were still posting pictures with rings and significant other prior to their sitch, if they are separated/divorce.. Its all assumption till ya meet them.
And to be honest, yes there are successful women out there. But when you look at the stats of income, men and women, not many people make allot of money to live in certain areas here. I know the incomes of many people and how they live. Most are in debt , heavy debt, to live a certain lifestyle. But I digress. Yes, assumption.
But what is pretty well earnings, and where is this earning being used, ie state, city, county etc. Income is different in NYC/Boston, then say Cross SC. Huge difference in how far a dollar goes.
We see it when people retire in NY/CT/OH and come here, they end up making a town called MT Pleasant and Daniel Island.
I know I have value to a potential person I may end up with. I am self sufficient, independent. Just as many women are. But, I just have a gut feeling many are not on the 2D dating sites.


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