Boundary after big D part five

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Mach40,

As far a "Home" comment, I feel, after seeing other women close to me and family, that they will try to get back into same lifestyle, a home etc. Its nothing derogatory, but its just a feeling I get. Maybe I am a little stand off and have a more of a questioning attitude as of late.
Good attitude about the dates. They werent bad, but I may have not been 100% focused on the fact they wanted to meet me to begin with..
Graduate degrees are not a bad thing, but many with grad degrees are with similar people and generally, not always, live in a higher standard of living. And after losing a spouse, its rather hard to get back into that.. I was just reading it as someone who wanted someone with a higher income, kind snotty of me I guess.
I know a few women that watch sports just for the husband, not because they like it. Just personal experience.

I gotta say...these comments come off as either pretty picky or pretty cynical. Having a home, a grad degree, interests in sports and/or boating...these are generally positive things. Yet you're reading into each one in a negative light. I suggest not "swiping left" on those factors and keeping yourself open to meeting up in person and vetting the people once you get to know them as well. Unless of course you're reading the negatives because you're just not ready, which is absolutely fine. To LH's earlier comment, maybe you're also still in need of some healing before you date. Again, absolutely fine.

Women no longer NEED men.

Also btw men no longer need women either. That’s why all these guys you meet are unavailable.

Men and women no longer needing each other seems to be leading to a lonely population out there...

And let’s be real, if men could actually filter out by weight and bra size, they likely would leaving it pretty dismal for women as well .

LOL! Hilarious observation. Could you imagine a dating app adding those filters for men? That'd be national news.

That said, LH has a point that men swipe right a much higher percentage than woman and woman get FAR more matches - that's just a statistical fact. So while that doesn't measure the quality, it is way easier for women at least in terms of quantity.

I think people should quit the online stuff anyways.

Mach, I encourage to keep up the IRL meeting people.

Real life is certainly preferable - you both get a better assessment of each other than a short profile and a few pictures.

Most of the time in person a woman will meet a guy and have no idea if he is over or under 6 foot and they really don’t care. And men could start talking to the hottest chick in the room and find out she is as interesting as a bag of rocks. Her friend right next to her, maybe not his “type “ might be really funny and he’s all of a sudden seeing her as way more attractive than her friend.

Right. Seems like OLD is more slanted towards the superficial.