In terms of work...on the one hand it can be a great way to deflect your focus from your sitch and get your mind onto something productive. On the other, also know that it's OK to slip a bit professionally if you have to take care of yourself personally. You won't always be going through this and it's alright to not be crushing it at work through this time.
Thanks for this, BL42. Managing work stress better is one of the big things I'm working on.
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Got some more info from the lawyer today. The D process is becoming much more concrete in my mind.
I now know which country's D process makes more sense for me, and that it would be beneficial for me to be the one to file. I now have a rough timeline and budget. It feels much more real. And wouldn't you know it, after feeling so gung-ho about D for a week, the new details give me pause.
Will give myself more time to reflect. Will talk it over with the DB coach and IC.
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Settling into my new temporary place. It's fine as a stopgap measure. I'm glad to finally have some privacy.
I'm quite a crier, but I've barely shed a tear since H's confession of the OWs. Partly because of shock, I think. And partly because I had no privacy at my parents' place.
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Today, I'm reflecting on the fact that I've been living out of a suitcase for half a year now, bouncing around several different cities. For the first few months it was because of an extended business trip and some personal travel. And the subsequent months was a consequence of the BD. I've endured much turbulence in my internal and external worlds, and there's much more turbulence ahead. I shall not waste this opportunity to grow. That would be the most tragic thing, to come out the other side not having learned anything.
Hi marching!
I just caught up on your story. So sorry, even when you think you know there's an affair It's still really awful when it's confirmed. Especially if it's somebody you know. The roller coaster of emotions get better with time. Eventually the hills aren't so steep, but the affair thing always throws you for a huge loop. The whole self blame thing we do is so frustrating. It's even harder if the x is still somewhat nice and appears reasonable and kind because then they can't just be an evil person in your mind.
I'm so glad you're moving on and getting things done quickly. Agreed, a new place for you to start fresh again independently will be huge. Speaking as somebody who is a few months in the future from you, things just get better and better.
