Sorry D. Didn’t see your post. I was too caught up in how my thread became the topic of how OLD is so frustrating for men and the odds are completely against them because of women having some level of standard .
Here we go again.
Yeah, BL, I will agree that the odds were against your ex! Ha!
Stages of life are truly the biggest challenges. We all start off single with no real life commitments. Then life gets real and finding compatibility is HARD.
Believe it or not, my child has no friends whose parents are divorced. They are all together.
Yeah, BL, I will agree that the odds were against your ex! Ha!
Not sure what's better - if ExW & OM2 "make it" and the kids have some sense of stability there and I just have to swallow my hurt, or if they break up and ExW introduces them to multiple boyfriends like LH's ExW - either way...not want I signed up for / hoped for my children.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Stages of life are truly the biggest challenges. We all start off single with no real life commitments. Then life gets real and finding compatibility is HARD.
Agreed.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Believe it or not, my child has no friends whose parents are divorced. They are all together.
I believe it. I don't think any of my closest high school, college, or adult life friends' parents are divorced, and only one of my against or uncles...which caused major family drama. I'm not accustomed to this situation at all and never saw it coming. I imagine it might be easier and more casual for ExW who grew up with it as a norm.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Honestly, BL, if your W’s BF treats your kids good…… then it would be the best for your kids if they stay together. Because if they break up there will just be another man they have to adjust to. And you’ll have to see if the new guy treats your kids good too. The less revolving door of men for your kids to adjust to, the better. I totally understand having to s@ck ip your own pride. It’s not easy. But I really don’t think any different men that aren’t you in your kid’s lives is going to make it any better.
When my ex and his wife I’ve got married, that was when I had said “they better stay together and he better not F this up” killed me for sure. I’m thankful enough she’s good to my D.
Today my D got her braces off! She looks like an adult ! It’s kind of crazy. She is very beautiful. I’ve been driving all over gods green earth today on my day off getting the dog groomed, braces off, then driving her to school so she could coach the Pom squad her and classmates started. I’m super proud of what they choreographed. I got to watch and it was awesome. Now we are going to meet her dad to see a sweet 16 venue. Then I’m going home and passing out. Tomorrow she managed to coerce me into taking her to a devils game. Well, coerce is a strong word, because I want to go too, it’s just alot for me on a work night.
I realize I’m lucky because my kid is not one to lock herself in her room as a teen . She literally spend every waking moment we are home together . Pretty cool. She called me weird but fun mom yesterday and I took that as the greatest compliment ever
Honestly, BL, if your W’s BF treats your kids good…… then it would be the best for your kids if they stay together.
Hard truth to hear, Ginger, but I suspect you're right. And of course what's best for the kids trumps my own feelings...though it's not like I have control over it regardless.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I realize I’m lucky because my kid is not one to lock herself in her room as a teen . She literally spend every waking moment we are home together . Pretty cool. She called me weird but fun mom yesterday and I took that as the greatest compliment ever
Maybe luck plays a part, but I suspect having you as a mother is a bigger factor.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Tomorrow she managed to coerce me into taking her to a devils game. Well, coerce is a strong word, because I want to go too, it’s just alot for me on a work night.
Now I'm picturing you with your face painted like David Puddy from Seinfeld. Too bad we can no longer be friends...
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
[quote=Ginger1]I realize I’m lucky because my kid is not one to lock herself in her room as a teen . She literally spend every waking moment we are home together . Pretty cool. She called me weird but fun mom yesterday and I took that as the greatest compliment ever
Maybe luck plays a part, but I suspect having you as a mother is a bigger factor.
This is the highest compliment and I thank you very much for it
Originally Posted by BL42
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Tomorrow she managed to coerce me into taking her to a devils game. Well, coerce is a strong word, because I want to go too, it’s just alot for me on a work night.
Now I'm picturing you with your face painted like David Puddy from Seinfeld. Too bad we can no longer be friends...
I may or may not be a loud and proud fan! ( D is actually worse than me, she glares at the opposing teams fans)
Oh no, which of the 2 evils is it? Rangers or flyers?!
