This is the first guy who has matched me where he is at in his life with age of kids, time divorced, and what he is looking for and matching effort so far.
Wow 1 guy in 12 years who fits what you are looking for in a guy. Guess this is why so many men are frustrated with OLDing.
This isn’t only OLD. And yes, it has been especially hard for me. Imagine being 28 divorced with a 6 months old. An age where people are just getting married. I have always been at a very different stage in life as my peers. It doesn’t have to do with the superficial stuff. The single Guys didn’t want to date divorced women with babies at 30. They were either getting married themselves, or single and looking, but not looking for a woman who has a baby /toddler/ preschooler and a custody schedule of free one night a week and every other weekend ( and for the first 3 years of that, I had to work those nights when she went to her dads)
Then there is the period everyone is married having kids and I’m still over here living the single mom life. Then I enter the stage where I have been divorced for years, and then guys are JUST getting divorced.
This isn’t superficial stuff. This is gross incompatibility. And it has been a really struggle for me. This is what has whittled my population down to like 4% of men. I’m the one who isn’t being chosen over here. I can’t blame these men either . Just like guys didn’t want to date a 30 year old with a small child, I don’t want to date 40 year old recently divorced men who are “seeing what’s out there” or have really little kids.
It’s not because a guy isn’t 6 feet tall or doesn’t make 6 figures.
Dating is HARD. When you date before marriage and kids, everyone is basically on the same page. Not this late I’m life.
