I hear what you are saying G - a guy in reasonably good shape but who doesn't obsess about his body. Someone reasonably healthy but who can also enjoy good food and a good time.
I don't think that is that hard to find. I'd be a little careful about the alcohol though - a guy in his 40's or 50's who still likes to drink a little too much may have a problem with alcoholism, so don't be blind to that.
