It's a waster of time anyway because most are a façade. At least the ones I know.
After spending time on the 2D dating sites, I am done looking at them. They are so fake.. My spidey senses kept seeing patters of loss of marriage, gain of home, need financial help to maintain lifestyle. Most were graduate degrees, most wanted/needed boats and were pictured with them. Most were sports heavy game watches. No way, sorry.. Not buying into it.
It's a waster of time anyway because most are a façade. At least the ones I know.
After spending time on the 2D dating sites, I am done looking at them. They are so fake.. My spidey senses kept seeing patters of loss of marriage, gain of home, need financial help to maintain lifestyle. Most were graduate degrees, most wanted/needed boats and were pictured with them. Most were sports heavy game watches. No way, sorry.. Not buying into it.
i've always wondered what the guys see vs what women see ... for my part everyone's a fitness freak, looking for 'the one' their soulmate, for romantic walks on the beach and trips hither and yon. i keep seeing peter pan and MLC or WAS ... very few pass my BS meter.
I saw a meme = maybe the grass is greener because you aren't over there fing it up .... made me lol
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It's a waster of time anyway because most are a façade. At least the ones I know.
After spending time on the 2D dating sites, I am done looking at them. They are so fake..
Well I was speaking about social media but let's take a closer look.
Originally Posted by Mach40
My spidey senses kept seeing patters of loss of marriage, gain of home, need financial help to maintain lifestyle.
So I have OLD on and off for 4 years and I have never seen a profile where a woman asked for financial help. Also, what does loss of marriage gain of home look like? Is it possible you are projecting?
Originally Posted by Mach40
Most were graduate degrees, most wanted/needed boats and were pictured with them. Most were sports heavy game watches.
So I have OLD on and off for 4 years and I have never seen a profile where a woman asks for or says she needs a boat. As for having graduate degrees and watching sports, that does sound horrible. (insert LH eyeroll) lol.
Originally Posted by Mach40
No way, sorry.. Not buying into it.
Mach I think you are still hurting and shouldn't be on these sites.
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Can I ask if these are assumptions? Or are these women outright saying that they want boats and to be maintained after divorce? Have you been asked for financial help ? Do they put it on their profile?
Or is it an assumption that since they find themselves midlife divorced they are expecting someone to provide these assets?
I obviously don’t know what is on the other side as I only see guy’s profiles. I do know in my vast experience of OLD the landscape of men has greatly changed since COVID. Politically, values, everything. No one gives a sh!t what they say to women. I think from everyone being behind a screen and working from home for so long and not interacting, they become really bold in what they can say behind a screen. It’s gross.
Yes, I like sports. Well, hockey mainly. Yes, I love the gym and being active. Fitness has always been important to me . It’s my therapy. I don’t require a guy to be fit, but I do need an active guy. I love to bike, hike, swim , etc. unfit and unhealthy wouldn’t match me. But also someone who doesn’t enjoy good dining and drink wouldn’t be a fit for me either. The health nut isn’t for me. Balance is very important for me. The last two guys have altleast fit that balance.
Mach, not all women who are divorced need someone to maintain their lifestyle. Please don’t assume that. Us women have come a long way. I have been maintaining mine forever alone. I even pay for dates. Just make sure you don’t assume these things about all divorced married middle aged women.
I don’t require a guy to be fit, but I do need an active guy.
So if a guy isn't fit doesn't that mean he is unfit which below you said is a hard no?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I love to bike, hike, swim , etc. unfit and unhealthy wouldn’t match me.
I am assuming unhealthy means preexisting health conditions?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
But also someone who doesn’t enjoy good dining and drink wouldn’t be a fit for me either.
So people who don't enjoy alcohol and what you perceive as good food are out.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
The health nut isn’t for me. Balance is very important for me.
So people who take really good care of themselves are out.
So it fair to say that you just ruled out about 75% of the male middle age population without even taking into account looks, height, job, location, living arrangements and of course the connection.
I hear what you are saying G - a guy in reasonably good shape but who doesn't obsess about his body. Someone reasonably healthy but who can also enjoy good food and a good time.
I don't think that is that hard to find. I'd be a little careful about the alcohol though - a guy in his 40's or 50's who still likes to drink a little too much may have a problem with alcoholism, so don't be blind to that.
I don't think that is that hard to find. I'd be a little careful about the alcohol though - a guy in his 40's or 50's who still likes to drink a little too much may have a problem with alcoholism, so don't be blind to that.
I don’t understand LH. I live a healthy lifestyle. But I am not obsessed with it. I am talking about gym obsessed only protein shake drinking people. I don’t think that’s 75% of the middle aged male population.
By fit I mean I don’t need a 6 pack and all these visible muscles. For you, fit is more of a vanity thing. For me, fit is actual fitness. Ability to keep up, enjoy physical activity. I don’t need all the muscles. And by unhealthy, I mean really over weight, out of breath easily, high blood pressure and diabetes due to modifiable risk factors.
I enjoy good food and drink. I like to try new cuisine and I get joy out of it in moderation. I like someone with an adventurous palate and I never had a hard time finding that ever. I wouldn’t be compatible with someone who doesn’t drink and only eats chicken breasts and cottage cheese and protein shakes . I enjoy nice restaurants and wineries and breweries. Just like you aren’t compatible with someone who doesn’t like beaches and concerts.
I know this shocks you, but I am a very active and fit woman. I eat healthy generally, and I exercise a lot. I’m not skin and bones, I have lost a decent amount of weight, but my body is strong not tiny. but I have an attractive body shape and am likely more fit than many very skinny women.
So I don’t know where you got so black and white, but what is compatible with this does not rule out all men. I’m finding it’s most men around my age, luckily.
Health nut and someone who takes really good care of themselves aren’t the same thing.
I take really good care of myself. I just don’t live the over the top fitness freak lifestyle 24/7. That isn’t the only way to take really good care of yourself
