Hi Doug54, I relate to a lot of aspects of your sitch. All I can say is, you're not alone.
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For instance, it wouldn't be an alpha move to realize that W may be struggling with her MLC. I don't even know if she's "struggling" at the moment - she seems happy with the replay phase, new fake boobs, and going out like a college kid (last night at least).
Happy people don't go around making huge changes, withdrawing from their families, trying to escape their lives. She might feel good in the moment when she's getting her fix, but I would be very surprised if she isn't actually struggling deep (or not-so-deep) down.
I say this because my H recently admitted to me multiple times that he's really, really unhappy. This after claiming that his life has been so much better without me in it. One of the first things he told me about a month into our separation was that he's way happier and enjoys his job (he'd complained about his job a lot before). But last week, he told me that he actually isn't happy with his job—he feels like he's just going through the motions, and he's applying for a new one in a different country! And then he followed up with a really self-pitying, stream-of-conscious text about how things aren't easy for him and he's just trying to get by.
He kicked me out of his life, hit a new fitness milestone, and is having an affair. But he still isn't happy.
