Doug I think you are cherry picking information to try to incorporate it into your sitch based on your current agenda.

So SteveLWs statement coincides with piecing. You are not piecing. You know your W is up to something so you have two options.

1. Ignore and focus on yourself and kids and work on becoming a man only a fool would leave.

2. Confront and act accordingly with the appropriate consequences.

Confronting and then accepting her lame excuses with no consequences comes off as weak behavior.

Does that make sense?