Marching in limbo with MLC H (2)

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Time and time again this rings true.

Sudden bomb day, weird behaviour, sudden swings toward/away from you, opportunity with lots of time apart in different locations - it screams affair every single time.

Indeed.

I want to ask. But do I really? Should I ask?

No. Do not ask. You cannot trust his answers anyhow. Honestly, your need to know will diminish and fade. Even extinguish. Acknowledge your desire/want to ask, and let it go.

Agreed. Don't ask. First, you likely won't get the truth from him. Second, it won't serve you anyway.

marching, I completely understand all those questions. I get it, trust me. The thing is they don't matter anymore. The sooner you can put them behind you and look forward the sooner you'll feel much better and go on to live a great life.

After feeling hurt by H's pressure to get the divorce going, I now want it done quickly, too. I don't want any more of our marital $ supporting H's adultery.

That said, I know that I am still reeling from trauma. It's recommended that people avoid making big decisions in this state.

Yes. Major life decisions made from an emotional place usually lead to regret.

Give yourself some time. Find your balance again.

Notice how you first wanted to delay it, and now you want to speed it up? Your feelings can change over time. That's why it's good idea to step back and take your time like DnJ says. If there are no major financial downside to giving it time then you don't need to rush into a hasty decision.