I think what is most important for me is being in a similar phase in life. Same aged kids, Time since divorce, etc. and I got started young and he got started older, so despite our age gap, we are in similar places. I’m not concerned about the age difference health wise . He is very fit and active. There are men his junior who look like there is a heart attack around the corner. The best we can do is try to keep ourselves healthy. My dad is 73 and in excellent shape. His wife is going to be 56. They bike , vacation, see concerts, go to the gym, etc. I have seen 60 something year old men that are ill.
BL- my doctor friend is married. So is my other friend. We are all just friends and he thinks we are tons of fun to hang out with ( which we are). He’s in one of those sexless marriages focused around his kids and him and his wife are ships passing in the night. So I guess he likes to have a good time sometimes.
As for new guy, when he dates women his age, their kids are OUT of the house and 14 and 15 year olds are not and they want a guy with no kids living at home. 14 and 15 is golden for me! I usually meet men with younger kids .
Did I like he asked me out again on the first date? Yes, I did. Ambiguity isn’t a turn on for me. It was a very natural “ I had a really great time and I would like to see you again” . That doesn’t turn off a woman if they are actually interested in seeing the guy again. I think if the woman wasn’t that into the guy, maybe the ambiguity would pique their interest a little. Other than, I appreciate the directness . It wasn’t pushy or desperate or clingy, it was sincere and natural. Actually, what I really liked about this guy was that he seemed very genuine. Not gamey at all. Just natural. Was he awkward at times? Yes, but I found it cute.
The kiss. Well, he walked me to my car, it was cold and I guess not the best setting for a kiss. I would have welcomed it, but it probably would have been awkward. The announcement was woerd but he was nervous I think.
Yeah, it’s crazy that his ex moved away from the kids. They met in FL and lived in FL and moved back up here and she decided to go back after the divorce. He said his older son is fine with it but it makes his younger son kind of sad. I totally stalked his facebook and you can see how close his kids are to him.
Yeah, that announcement of my kids are my priority is a sticking point for me !! Because not one man who has ever actually said it, has ever actually lived it. The ones who are quiet, do their dad thing, are the ones who really actually live it. And that to me, is very very attractive .
