Welp

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Ginger1,

Next Saturday my friend and I are going out for a doctor friends birthday. He insists on paying, even for his own birthday. And is getting us ( my friend and I ) a hotel room so we don’t have to drive. That will be my big night out .

Is he single?

The only one I never deleted was facebook dating ( don’t even know how to delete it) but I never used it because of wacky far away matches.

Yeah, why does it do that? I got on this one briefly awhile back and set my distance preference close but it would keep popping up with profiles in distant states too. So annoying.

He has custody of his 14 and 15 year old sons. His ex wife over back to FL a few years ago.

How could she move so far away from her non-adult children? That's mindboggling to me.

he never once had to say “my kids are my priority”

That has to be your #1 red flag lol

He said women in his age range usually run when he says his kids ages.

Interesting. Because they're teens? I would think closer to HS graduation and out of the house might be a plus for some women vs super young kids?

There were no “sparks” but definitely a level of attraction for me.

Attraction can grow as you get to know a person.

I agree with kml - don't worry about the immediate "spark"...see if attraction grows over time.

he asked for a second date on the first date.

Is that attractive to you / a plus? I've seen materials that say women are more attracted to ambiguous interest.

He asked in the parking lot if he could hug me and I said yes. I think he was testing the waters and was being respectful and said “ I would ask for a kiss, but I don’t want to make it awkward”

Seems like asking for a hug and then saying he didn't ask for a kiss because he didn't want to be awkward would actually make it more awkward. Did you appreciate the ask?

we didn’t kiss, but I hope if the second date goes well, he goes for it.

Just curious...would you have preferred he go in for the kiss on the first date?

If anything, this date lessened my fear of dating. I actually got scared. Scared of the nutso people. It was nice to know even if this doesn’t get past date 2, there are men left who aren’t pervs, aren’t looking to get right into my bed, and aren’t in the im FREEEEEEEEE!!!!!! Mentality.

There are plenty of respectful, normal, no-nutso guys out there.

I guess I have to go up in my age range.

...said the majority of females at any age! lol