Thank you LH18, BL42, bttrfly, and Kind18 for your advice. I've been so busy GALing that I haven't responded to H yet. Got a really packed day of GALing tomorrow, too.
LH18, I can see why my posts give off the impression that I put the 100% blame entirely on H. My reflections on my role in the marital issues leading up to BD are brief and scattered in just a handful of posts here. I've actually thought about this a lot offline, in IC and in my personal journal. I agree that it's an important exercise; I don't want to make the same mistakes in a future R. And it's just good for my growth as a person overall.
