Mach- I could definitely tell that I'm not ready for the hard-core approach of those two. Like you said, I do like the mindset. What I really took from it was the thought about feeling foolish and not wanting to feel that way again. It clicked. That is a problem for me. A problem I have to handle. I get what you are saying about using "but" too much. Believe it or not I have been trying to improve on that. I'll work harder. Thanks.
Well, now that you've written it out, you are accountable to yourself to do better....
I also think that the feeling 'foolish' will fade in time. You have to remember that you did the best that you could with the tools that you had at that time...
Love is about trust, and trusting blindly at times. Just because you didn't immediately recognize the pattern that was being set, doesn't mean that you were foolish by missing it.
You trusted your long time wife to NOT cheat.....
Doesn't necessarily make it right or wrong....
In a normal healthy marriage, is it foolish to not trust your spouse/partner ?
If you are loving another correctly, then the answer should be a resounding 'no'....
Focus in on what you can change that you don't like about yourself...
And finding out why you are a "but" man might be a good start....
