I'm thinking that I will thank him for the update on the the bank transfer. Not sure how to respond to his message about his suffering though. Feels callous to only acknowledge the money stuff and not his suffering.
How is this: "I hear that you are in a lot of pain. It may be helpful to talk to a therapist."
How much support should I give to someone who is in an affair and wants to D me???
Originally Posted by LH19
Zero support.
Simple validation. “I’m sorry you’re ………
I agree w/LH. Do not lend your shoulder for an H who is D'ing you to cry on. You feeling callous to only acknowledge the money aspect is your Nice Guy Syndrome (NGS) coming out. It's your natural reaction to be supportive and caring and compassionate but you should cut that off for someone who is treating you with disrespect. Keep your response brief. Only address the money component, and do a brief validation of the feelings if needed.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
