I feel the emotions swinging already. Hardly slept at all last night.
This is completely normal. It will happen again. It’s part of the rollercoaster. Know that we’ve ALL been through it.
When it happens, don’t let it control your thoughts. This is the steps I do to manage it:
1. Wow, I miss my old life/house and having the kids around us both 24/7. 2. I wonder how great it would have been if we were still together. 3. Hang on, here comes that weird feeling again. 4. This is the emotional part of my brain directing thoughts. I won’t let it takeover. I’ll let the rational, measured part of my brain control my thoughts. 5. She is a freak show 6. My kids are better off and happier now that we’re apart 7. My new partner is amazing and a much better match 8. I should have divorced her years ago
When you can step out of your own brain and look at your thoughts from the viewpoint of another person, you’ll quickly identify whether they’re emotion or rationally driven thoughts. It will help control those times when you feel like crumbling (which is generally when you’re tired, hungry, overwhelmed and in the middle of the night).
