(men seem to also want what they don't or can't have ... maybe it's a human thing rather than gender-specific?)

and yes, a desperate man (or woman) is a massive turn off ...

please do consider though not having her drive with you. I'm worried about her potentially taking off with the car while you're in the rest room. I know that sounds far fetched, but given what she's recently done, is it really all that out of the realm of possibility? better not to find out, I'd say.

I think your best bet to bust this divorce, FM, is to put the focus squarely on yourself and your children, leaving her to her own devices. If you then work to solidify a functional relationship with her as a co-parent rather than a spouse she'll hopefully start to see the changes in you and realize what she's throwing away.

She has so much work to do on herself before she's going to be a healthy partner for anyone.

Last edited by bttrfly; 12/28/22 12:33 AM. Reason: added content
M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver