FwdMvmt, my situations were: #1 - A few years ago, I arrived home to discover my life partner and her kids were gone. I DB'd and we resumed for 2 years. #2 - Before this site, I was a WAS to an XW who hurt my son. So I've worn both hats--LBS and WAS--but never been in an OM/OW situation afaik. I encourage reading Steve's and May's threads as they were LBS who dealt with OM/OW and saved their marriages. Not every situation can be saved, but right action maximizes your chances. It's great you are doing so much reading to maximize your chances, and can slow down your responses to messaging.
