Wayward Wife help (2)

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FwdMvmnt,

“I know that your relationship with OM is more than friends. This is disrespectful to me, the kids and yourself. For me It is unacceptable behavior that a married woman acts in these ways. I will not allow my children to be part of this situation either. I know I cannot stop or control your behaviors, nor do I want to, but This relationship is not working for me and I am moving forward without you. If you decide that you want to work on this marriage and this family you can let me know and we will see if that option is still available. I will also have zero tolerance for this guy or any guy to be in or around our marital home and to have any contact with our minor children. I pray that you find what you are looking for.”
Then just walk away.

too many words. make it more succinct. when you say you won't tolerate -- what can you do to stop it?

I think that enough words have been said at this point...

Just live your life that way, she will either join you are not...

I agree with bttrfly & Mach1. Too many words. She knows all of that already, including OM, and she doesn't care. Let her feel the consequences of her choices. Remember, actions > words.

What you can do, and should do, is what you just did. Write it down. And then let it go.

Yes. Good therapeutic exercise. Process your feelings on your own, with IC, with close family...NOT on display to W.

Some folks have success with things like this actually writing upon paper, and then burning those words. Write what you’d like to say, then let it go to the flames.

Though you may want to avoid fire, considering W's penchant for that activity! Sorry, too soon? A little levity isn't bad ;-)

Here are the texts I woke up to this morning

W- What’s your schedule like on Friday? Cracker Barrel wants to interview me to work in the gift shop🙃

W- I just need to make sure S6 is accounted for. I have therapy at 9 that day as well. If I could go sometime after that morninf that would be nice

W- Can you please answer your phone

H- I’ll look at Friday, not sure what’s on my schedule yet

W- Can you please let me know within the next or or so? I’m trying to set up an interview.

H- Set up what you want. I’ll always make sure S6 is covered.

Anything I could have done different? Thanks

Decent job. The fewer words and more direct business the better. Good you didn't fawn over her for the interview news.