My kids are of upmost importance, I know Inneed to be healthy to ensure their protection and growth.
I understand what I need to do with myself. I am going to continue working on myself and making sure my children are protected. I had my first coaching session yesterday, pretty good stuff and great insights. I have continued to pray and spent all my time with my family the last couple days. I am together with them again today. I wish my detachment was further along to truly be present at all times here, but it is getting better. One struggle I continue to have is not saying something about this OM. The only thing she has told me is that they are friends. The amount of texts show different. I came up with the following, not sure on everyone’s thoughts. I know the NC and dropping the rope need to be in place, and have started those.
“I know that your relationship with OM is more than friends. This is disrespectful to me, the kids and yourself. For me It is unacceptable behavior that a married woman acts in these ways. I will not allow my children to be part of this situation either. I know I cannot stop or control your behaviors, nor do I want to, but This relationship is not working for me and I am moving forward without you. If you decide that you want to work on this marriage and this family you can let me know and we will see if that option is still available. I will also have zero tolerance for this guy or any guy to be in or around our marital home and to have any contact with our minor children. I pray that you find what you are looking for.” Then just walk away.
I know I can STFU and drop the rope as I move forward. I just feel like I need to let her know where she and I stand. Thoughts?
