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Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941211 12/25/22 09:41 PM
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bttrfly Member B Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 6,123 Likes: 411 New England	it's hard but let go or be dragged. M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16 "Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver

Re: Children and Boundarys? bttrfly #2941212 12/25/22 09:49 PM
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OP Mach40 Member M Joined: Jan 2020 Posts: 649 Likes: 18	Originally Posted by bttrfly it's hard but let go or be dragged. She texted merry Christmas, and apologized how "I am so sorry, I really am" Kids are not happy, understandably as this is their first Christmas without the original core family.. and the biggest loss of no Grandma Sitting at a Table for One.

Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941213 12/25/22 10:17 PM
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DnJ Member D Joined: Jan 2018 Posts: 4,973 Likes: 615	Hello Mach Be present in the moment. Enjoy the grandkids and time with family. It’s priceless. Let go that other cost you are associating it with. Merry Christmas. D Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
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Re: Children and Boundarys? DnJ #2941221 12/26/22 04:35 AM
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BL42 Member B Joined: Jul 2020 Posts: 1,760 Likes: 193	Originally Posted by bttrfly it's hard but let go or be dragged. Indeed. Originally Posted by DnJ Be present in the moment. Enjoy the grandkids and time with family. It’s priceless. Let go that other cost you are associating it with. Great advice. Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21

Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941226 12/26/22 11:09 AM
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OP Mach40 Member M Joined: Jan 2020 Posts: 649 Likes: 18	Thnx everyone. Youngest daughter slept at her place. She worked a straight month at the restaurant. Exhausted is an understatement. Oldest and grand baby are asleep on couch, pancho liner ( super warm, highly recommend military ones), various blankets and such. Grand baby was telling everyone on Christmas she was coming to Punkins ( how it sounds when she says it) and was sleeping on the couch in front of tree. Well she did. Santa duties were completed about 1/2 hr ago, stockings etc, milk n cookies. He even made coffee for me. Merry Christmas everyone Sitting at a Table for One.

Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941229 12/26/22 02:18 PM
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bttrfly Member B Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 6,123 Likes: 411 New England	Originally Posted by Mach40 Originally Posted by bttrfly it's hard but let go or be dragged. She texted merry Christmas, and apologized how "I am so sorry, I really am" Kids are not happy, understandably as this is their first Christmas without the original core family.. and the biggest loss of no Grandma sorry is as sorry does and it doesn't change a d@mn thing. time to make new memories and traditions. M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16 "Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
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Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941231 12/26/22 03:09 PM
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DnJ Member D Joined: Jan 2018 Posts: 4,973 Likes: 615	Falling asleep on couch in front of the tree - so cute! And coffee for you. What a thoughtful Santa. Making memories for sure. Years from now - as I just learned today - when the young ones reminisce, you’ll be surprised at the magic they are living. Ah, so precious are the eyes of a child. D Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
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Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941256 12/26/22 10:33 PM
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OP Mach40 Member M Joined: Jan 2020 Posts: 649 Likes: 18	They are still here, playing games and just enjoying each. May even do a small bonfire out back.. Sitting at a Table for One.

Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941498 01/04/23 11:57 AM
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OP Mach40 Member M Joined: Jan 2020 Posts: 649 Likes: 18	Had New Years Eve with neighbor and her friends/family. It was nice to be invited. I stayed till about 230 am, helped cleanup. She wants to go on a simple road trip to Savannah with me.. Cool. I wont consider it a date just yet. She is not married, no pictures in her house, no ring ( no I didnt ask), and her family from Manhatten liked me. Italians, and they brought their A game with the home made deserts.. Good time. And today, my youngest daughter is moving in.. It will be nice to have her in the house. Sitting at a Table for One.

Re: Children and Boundarys? Mach40 #2941500 01/04/23 12:34 PM
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bttrfly Member B Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 6,123 Likes: 411 New England	Italians always bring their A game when it comes to food. M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16 "Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
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