I will continue to be assertive and draw boundaries (if I say it, it will come true).
Yes, our minds will bring to fruition that which we ask of it. Saying, especially writing, are powerful precursors to doing. The first step in any process is creation. Doing that creation ushers in the next step, doing the supportive actions.
Originally Posted by LH19
Just be careful you don’t friend zone yourself.
I agree with your DB coach, you likely needed to build/rebuild a friendship with H.
As has been stated a lover’s or wife’s friendship to her H is different than the friendship with the grocery store check out person. There is a chemistry, a spark, that lives within and between two people in love. As you speak friendly with H, becoming just a friend is the pitfall to avoid.
An example of being friend-zoned, well for a guy: When trying to get a date you are told you are such a good friend, like a brother, some one I can really talk to. Blam! Friend zoned. No one dates their brother.
Friends have a barrier or ceiling on the relationship. That relationship does not venture into the sexual and lover’s realm. If you want a chance at reconciliation, you be W. Not friend. Wife. Don’t be H’s sounding board, or confidant, or counsellor; be friendly. He can find “friends” to pour his heart out to, and folks to help him fix things. That is not a position where you want to get trapped in.
You’ve likely read plenty of the be flirty and vague and such, advice to posters. That is what encourages (for someone wanting it) the friendship of lovers. The advice is do not over do it, and don’t walk blindly into the friend zone.
Have a Merry Christmas m.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
