Wayward Wife help (2)

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Thanks B for your post,

The 2x4 is perfect and what I need. It’s why I will continue to post on here to get recentered and not make major mistakes through this process.

My current goals are to continue growing myself. I want to be the best man, father, husband and friend I can be. I have to do this to protect myself and my kids, especially S6. As for my marriage I know I don’t want what I had, I would like to grow a new relationship if it is in the cards, I do think that would be best outcome for my family. I am willing to do the work and know I have to have patience with all of this. This person is not my wife and I am not who I want to be yet. I see a ton of growth in me, but still have lots of work to do. The IHS makes it difficult for me to detach fully, but I must find a way. I also do not like hiding the truths from those that I love and would like her to know that I am not doing that any longer. I want to be a transparent person, that always acts with integrity. This is why I quit pulling records in the first place. I don’t want to lie at all even to her.

Does me not saying anything validate her actions?

Is it acceptable to let her know that I know what she is doing and that I will not cover it up any longer when her mother or my adult children ask?

I spent a lot of time on 6&7 over the last couple weeks. I am working with a sponsor through the steps. I also reach out to others I’m my support group when my shortcomings and defects return, or I get into my head. I have been working the steps for about 4-5 months now. This will be a life long process for me. I am willing without a doubt to have them removed. I will continue to recognize and give these over to God everyday and throughout the day. They got the better of my late last night. Im the past I would act immediately, there has been a ton of growth, progress not perfection. I realize that only she can change her, I have to focus on me. I fully believe this.

For today I am going to continue on my current path, give it away and enjoy my family for the holidays.

Thank you again for your post.