When you say you will no longer tolerate her deceit if she deceives you what are the consequences? Is it telling her parents? What do you think that will do? Do you think she will stop then? If she doesn’t then what?
How is her getting out of the house going to protect her sobriety? What if she won’t leave the house? Then what?
I am one of the few here who like ultimatums because humans typically respond to consequences but I don’t think you’re ready and that will weaken your position even further.
