Thanks for the input on the friendship thing. At this point, with contact is so minimal, we aren't even friends, so there is no risk of friendzoning, but if the rapport grows, yes, I don't plan on hanging onto his every word, I will not bend over backwards for approval, etc. As for being a friend while a spouse is in an affair—it's interesting, this seems to be quite a matter of debate on the forums. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.
I appreciate you asking me why I don't want this divorce. It's certainly something I think about, and I won't go into all those reasons for now. Obviously I am not in a healthy relationship with the person H is right now. I deserve much, much better. Sometimes I just want to get the D over with. I know I will be okay.
