SteveLW, thanks for dropping in. Yes, I'm trying to not be impulsive (i.e., not act like a crazy MLC alien), I appreciate you acknowledging that. This board is such a great resource and I'm so grateful for it. The DB coach was actually the one who recommended that I include the message and be a little chatty.
DnJ, I'm moving to the Big City in a couple weeks, thanks for asking. I'm expecting that H will reach out again next week after he meets with the lawyer. I feel some anxiety about this. I hate this feeling of walking on eggshells, always being afraid of making the wrong move. But I will continue to be assertive and draw boundaries (if I say it, it will come true).
-- I've been thinking about what my goals are for in my interactions with H. Frankly, I'm not really considering reconciliation. I don't dare to hope for it because the chances are so slim. So many stars need to align for an R to work out, and very few of them are within my control.
So, my goal is to just to communicate assertively and take my power back. Just take things as they come as an emotionally healthy, self-respecting person. My IC told me today that I shouldn't be afraid of H's reactions. If H throws a tantrum when I stand up for myself, this would not be surprising because this whole thing is childish. I don't want to be married to a child.
