Marching in limbo with MLC H

[DnJ]

Good Morning m

I consulted with a DB coach today and it was super helpful. She echoed words shared here about how dragging things out can push the MLC spouse in the other direction.

We talked about how I can be cooperative without being a doormat. She also said that it in my case, it wouldn't hurt to start some light chit chat. So, I sent the pictures of the MC (cooperation). I also told H that I am talking to lawyers in Big City, deliberately using the word "divorce," which he tends to avoid, to show that it doesn't scare me (not being a doormat).

Glad you sought out a DB coach. A most helpful resource.

I like purposefully and deliberately using the word divorce with H. That’s good for you (what you can control) and influences H as well. Removing his belief that you are afraid of divorce does disarm H somewhat, and takes some of the wind from his sails.

H now has the certificate, and the ball is back in his court. Let’s see where he takes this, and how fast.

You keep doing you. When are you moving into your new place in the big city? Or have you already?

D