Spi - spot on, this isn't about you, what you did or didn't do as a husband, father, partner. all about her.
as a follow up to Kind's post - I found it helpful to devote a small amount of time to this kind of speculation, not more than 15 minutes - no more, no less. Then back to your most excellent GAL activities and making Christmas and New Year spectacular for your children.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver