Kind18, BL42, LH19, DnJ, thanks so much for your input and support. I can see how the ask isn't passive aggressive.
I worry that my perception is warped because I think I was a doormat in the weeks after BD and now I am at risk of going too far in the opposite direction. For example, I thought he was justified in not letting me in "the" (not "our") apartment and not helping me make alternative arrangements. I really wish I had stood up for myself then. And I never explicitly stated that I don't want the divorce, I just said I accepted and respected his decision; I was afraid that saying anything more would push him away.
So, I appreciate the feedback. I see how complying with this request wouldn't be doormat behavior. Still think H is being weird though, because in Country B, as elsewhere, you don't need the certificate to make inquiries about the D process.
