Wayward Wife help (2)

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FwdMvmnt,

She of course said that if I would have paid for the sober housing she wanted to live in, that the slip wouldn’t have happened.

You're not responsible for her slip. You likely agree w/that on the surface, but do you KNOW it deep down? Do not let her gaslight you.

She has been in good spirits since that day and applied for her first job.

They're all happy about everything new...until the newness fades and then they usually revert to their former level of happiness. A new job is NOT going to cure her unhappiness or fix are issues in the long run. She has deep issues she needs to deal with or will never be whole.

I have been working on me which is getting better and trying to separate myself from our situation, but have been failing miserably.

Detachment isn't easy and takes time. Keep at it and don't beat yourself up.

I have signed up for an integrated man course, hired a coach and been reading non stop.

Awesome!

I also did just complete my 7th step in Al Anon and will be starting the 8th.

Nice work!

I am looking forward to Christmas, since we will be in different houses the entire week except for Christmas morning.

Make sure to exercise every day. No excuses.

I am going ti attempt to post here each day to get out of my head, on top of working with my new coach.

Smart. Do it!