Thanks for the suggestions, BL42 and R2C! I haven't seen those videos—will check them out, thanks! I like the idea of keeping things light and then deflecting.
An unpleasant update in my sitch. H just texted saying that he's going to "look into things" and asked me to send him pictures of our marriage certificate. This just two weeks after he said he wouldn't bring "it" up again and understood that I'm dealing with a lot right now. (Love how he doesn't straight up say "divorce.") We have had 0 contact since then. I had a feeling he'd still end up pressuring me. And here he is again pressuring me in this "polite," passive aggressive way.
Will give it 24-48 hours before I respond. Is this my opportunity to use the response everyone suggested last time ("I don't agree but I won't stand in your way")? What are your thoughts on sending the pictures? Frankly, I don't understand why he would need them for "looking into things." I am tempted to tell him that he is welcome to order a copy of the certificate himself.
My goal is to be assertive but not alienating. To stand up for myself while keeping the door cracked open.
