marching,
Originally Posted by marching
I've always been a planner and I've been very lucky—up until now, things in my life have more or less gone according to plan. So, it really [censored] to not know what's gonna happen and to realize that there's only so much that I can control.
"only so much I can control" indeed. Release control completely and find acceptance. You have no idea how wonderful your life might become because of what's happened to you. Use it as a opportunity for growth.

Originally Posted by marching
Sometimes the pain can be so bad that the only thing I can do is to get through the day hour by hour! Sometimes even half-hour increments.
After BD for me it seemed like minutes took hours and days took weeks...but now I'm nearly 3 years in and it's incredible how quickly time has flown by. You'll get through it.

Originally Posted by marching
I've been dropped into a course on mindfulness that I didn't sign up for!
LOL, indeed! I was just commenting on DW17's thread how I never even heard of mindfulness before my sitch - I had no idea what my IC was talking about - and now I understand so much better the need for Zen and all those concepts.


Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21