I am newly divorce and dad to two teenage girls. They live with me during the school week and their mother has them for long weekends.
The oldest one only sees her mom one day a week, sometimes she'll come back the same day. She has a bf and is in therapy. Youngest daughter sees her mom the full weekend and is also in therapy.
My ex W is very wayward.
One of the thing she was supposed to do was get life insurance as part of the marital settlement agreement. After two years I discovered she had not done this. First she said she didn't have to. then she said it wasn't in the D papers. When I showed her a screenshot she said she didn't read it. It's at the top of the page.
She said she'd "look into it" and this went on for weeks. Finally I called my lawyer and asked for his advice. He said give her a deadline which I did. She didn't like it. She is having financial problems (despite working full time and living with OM and his kids).
I told her looking into it isn't enough. I need you to do this. It's for the kids and protects the child support you give me. Then she started to get nasty and said she was working on it but wasn't going to give me the paperwork and I'd have to get my lawyer to ask for it. She asked me for a copy of my policy which I provided then when she finally got her policy last month all I got was the policy number in a text.
As if that wasn't enough I feel she is trying to emotionally blackmail me. She chose to move to a nearby state when OM sold up last year and moved to and now she is realizing she doesn't have the kids that much. She feels my youngest daughter would be better off living with her but the divorce papers say both kids will live with me in the marital home and go to the same school.
We have 50/50 custody but in reality I get much more than this because of her choice as to where she lives and works.
I do the school run, take them to their medical apts and I got them in therapy. My name is on all the documents. She has done barely anything.
She tells me to lose my attachment to my daughter while at the same time telling me my youngest daughter "needs her mommy more." I'm then told "if I loved her that much I'd at least try" to let my daughter live with her and "I've never heard of a father keeping his kids from their mother if that's what they want."
My kids have never asked to go live with her. My youngest has ADHD and I recently got her setup with a 504 plan in school. She has social anxiety and no friends.
If she were to go to live with her mother she'd have to start all over again in a new school and she has no friends where her mother lives and doesn't interact with OM's kids. She stays in her bedroom most of the time and plays on her devices. When she's with me she has everything she needs.
I am concerned that exW might try to influence her to leave me and go live with her.
In the three years she left me she has shown zero remorse for her actions and is even more resentful that I have the kids more.
I got to thinking about why she left me to organize therapy for them and I wondered if it's because she would have to tell the therapists that she was responsible for this mess and her affair. Is that a reasonable conclusion because it would make her look bad.
Last edited by DnJ; 12/20/2203:34 AM. Reason: Added link to previous thread.
