I'm spending a lot of time reading reconciliation stories here. Have been doing this for a couple months. I noticed the way I'm reading them is changing.
I started out seeking out reasons for hope. I hoped I'd find a situation similar to mine and learn from it to find a magic solution to bring H back. And there are truly some remarkable turnarounds on this site.
My reading of reconciliation stories is still motivated by this, a bit. Ok, I admit, sometimes maybe a lot. But so far I haven't found any stories that are similar and I know that even if I did, it wouldn't make sense to use them as guides for my situation anyway. I'm coming a bit closer to acceptance that things are the way they are.
Recently, I've found that I focus much more on the crap behavior of the WAS's. I wonder why the LBS's still want the WAS's and am more interested in how the WAS's redeem themselves rather than in what the LBS's did to get them back. (And of course, if there is any common denominator, it's following the usual DB principles.)
