No the DB boundary threads. Ok you set a boundary you will not attend holidays parties with new dude. You say boundary is broken. What are the consequences? If it’s you not attending your ex gets what she wants so you may want to revisit your consequences.
I was thinking that too...
You set a boundary, that you won't be there if her BF is there....
You miss the event...
All that your grandbabies will remember is, that you weren't there....
All that you will remember is that you weren't there...and that someone else's actions stopped you from being there....
What are there, like 5 seats in where this play is/was ?
Nobody says you have to sit close...
My advice would be...
That there are going to be times when you and "them" are gonna have to be in the same room at the same time.
You can either choose to be bitter and angry...
Or you can choose to realize that the event(s) isn't about you....
When my Daughter graduated high school, I had asked her about a party, and she made it clear that she wanted only ONE party, and that we would just have to deal with being together for it. I was kinda where you are. I was okay with whatever my Ex wanted to do and live her life, although I didn't exactly want it in my face.
After some struggle, I came to the conclusion that the day wasn't about me, it was about my Daughter. And anyone could say anything they wanted to me that day, without any repercussion. There might be he!l to pay the next day, yet it was "all good" on her party day. Because it wasn't about me....
It takes time to get there, yet you can't go forward by thinking backward....
Try to find a balance and peace with this....cause if you want to be in their life, these things are gonna happen.
