Boundary after big D part five

[Mach40]

But I think it is levitating towards I will be the grand pa raising this child, along with ex.

Are you saying you believe you and your ex will soon have joint custody of your grandchild?

Now the tricky part, me and the ex. Ex is seeing someone. I was clear I didn't want to see them together. First hurdle of testing my boundary.

Are you saying your boundary was your EX can't date anyone?

My grandbaby is having two plays this week. Same play, just twice. I had planned on going to both as I was told nobody could go due to work, and ex is sick again, fever (Flu more than likely). Fever broke two days ago, and she texted me asking for the two them to show up for one of the events as she knew I was going to both. She said, I respect your feelings etc, and want to run it by you. I said, I will go one day, and you can go the other. Problem solved, but my boundary was tested.

How do you feel your boundary was tested?

Now, Grand babys B Day is in January, and my daughter has told her Momma, that there will be one party, and her new man is not to be there. Not my business, as that is their fight. It can go a few ways. But, I will not go if he is there, its too soon to deal with this. Thoughts.

It's your right to go if you don't feel comfortable. Maybe you can take your grand daughter to Chucky Cheese or something?

If my daughter completely severs ties with baby daddy, I know I will be supporting my grand daughter. Ex will too. She will be in her home, and I will be financially assisting for the babys needs.
That would be sharing support for the child, not actual custody.
I didnt say she could date, I made it clear to my ex I didnt want to see her with someone else anytime soon. She had agreed. But, she asked anyways.
By asking me if it were okay to have him show up to event while I was there, was testing the boundary we agreed on.
We will work something out. The issue is me being an adult. I just dont want to see it. Chucke Cheese is horrible, btw.