Wolfman Moving Forward 5

[Wolfman]

I was just talking to a buddy and he approached my situation from a very different perspective. He has 2 kids from a previous marriage. His wife passed away. He got remarried and now has 3 kids. He explained to me I need to see it from her eye. Because he has had this problem with his current wife. As far as spending time time with his 2 who are 15 & 13 from the previous the other 3 from current marriage are 5,3,1. How he believes there has to be times that I pick the baby over my s12. He explained to me just going to mys12 basketball games and leaving is not quality time with my son. That maybe miss on a rare occasion if there is something that needs to be done for the baby. Tell my s12 that instead of going to the game, doing something together one on one. Make that quality time. He really got me to step back for a second and look at this through a different lense. What do some of you think of that idea?
One of the things I never said on here which I recognize today is my fault is this. 2 years ago when gf was pregnant she got COVID. I had plans with my son to go upstate for 3 days with a buddy and his son. I didn't want to let my son down so I left her home while she was pregnant and very sick. She brings that up. I am sharing this because again, I recognize I have made mistakes and some of these decisions have caused her resentment. That has grown inside of her. Another time I promised my son to take him to a theme park during one of the vacation weeks I had him.. She had a paper due that week. She asked once she was done to take him a day after that. I had promised my son at the beginning of the week. So I took him anyway. Obvioulsy she was very upset with that. I am sharing this to hopefully help everyone out to my situation and why she is so frustrated and says the things she does.