As others have said, document everything with photos that are date stamped and catalog in a spreadsheet.

interview lawyers yesterday. you cannot afford to wait.

ask the lawyer if you can take half the $$ out of joint bank accounts now, and tell her that the remaining is hers to do with as she wishes. She wants to leave, let her. Do not move out of the house. Make her leave. This is her divorce. She needs to take ownership and action around this divorce that she wants. You need to protect assets, children and yourself.

It may be wise to propose mediation to your wife directly after speaking to a lawyer to find out your rights. A mediator is a neutral party who can help you hammer out a divorce agreement, but cannot advise either of you - that's where the lawyer comes in. A mediator can however save you significant $$$. There are too many divorce attorneys who make their $$ by jacking up their clients' emotions and dragging stuff out. While I would have given anything for my family to remain intact, I do believe the best thing we did was hire a mediator who was skilled as a marital mediator as well. He was awesome. My exh's lawyer bilked him of thousands and caused us to fight about things we'd never fought about before. Exh realized it six months in and fired her, but he'd already lost almost 5 figures on a non-contested divorce by the time he wised up.

FM, I'm sorry. This marriage is dead and gone. Flat lined. Doesn't mean you can't have a better and new marriage with your wife down the road. It does mean you need to start protecting yourself, your $$ and most especially the kids ASAP.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver